Felicity’s first skirmish in the mummy-wars was an ambush, and she was its only casualty.

She had driven past the cafe several times. It was en route to the child care centre where Brigit spent one morning a week. It looked quirky, in a sophisticated way rather than the earthy style, like it was snubbing the modern hippie even while it proclaimed organic credentials.

 It was called Understudy’s Cafe and she had been eyeing it off since they had moved into the area. Partly because it looked like the nearest place to her new home that may make a decent coffee, but also because a sign out the front indicated it hosted Mainly Music. She hadn’t fully scoped it yet, but it seemed the second storey above the cafe held a dance studio and a few private rooms for music teachers to rent.

The quirkiness and the creativity appealed to Felicity. Nathan had heard that some mother’s groups met there too, since it was child friendly, and the back corner of the cafe had been turned into an enclosed play area.

“You should go,” he had said the other night.

Felicity stayed quiet.

“You’ll never meet anyone or make any friends if you don’t get out.”

“I know. It’s only been a few weeks, though.”

If she was honest, she was terrified. In the last few years her friends had scattered across Australia. That had made moving here easier in some ways – home is only home if the people you love are there. And all she really had was Nathan, since her sister moved to the UK. There was no other family for her, so she shouldn’t feel so displaced, should she? Like the only thing that made sense and that was right was Nathan and Brigit, but that somehow they didn’t belong with her. She could admit she was lonely. What to do about it was the puzzle. Nathan’s solution: bare your soul and people will like you. Sure they would.  

She sighed. Apparently she had been sighing a lot lately. Get on with it woman, she said to herself time after time. With what, her inner-self retorted. Whatever.

The ambush happened the first time she went to Understudy’s.

Felicity had learnt that having a baby with you took the edge off going to lots of places alone. It made for an introduction. It also made her feel more secure and less like a stupid loser with no friends. Brigit’s soft babble and eager scanning of people encouraged Felicity. Brigit was such a sociable baby. She sparkled from her eyes, to her smile, and happily waved at everyone. When they waved back to her she clapped her hands.

It was actually quite comfortable, sitting there with a flat white, watching Brigit and offering her a toy or distraction every so often. She was pleasantly relaxed when she approached the counter a second time. The lady serving was called Susan, according to her name tag. Felicity tried to file the name and face together.

“Could I trouble you to heat up my daughter’s bottle? And may I also try a chai latte?”

Felicity held out the bottle. Her eye was still on Brigit, sitting upright in her chair and waving at her. She waved back and smiled a huge cheesy smile at her bubba. Brigit laughed and waved back.

“How old is she?” Susan said.

“Oh. She’s nine months,” Felicity returned her attention to what she was doing. She was still smiling. She always laughed with Brigit. Her daughter’s laughter felt like champagne bubbles rising up through her body and tickling her nose. Like pure molten gold bubbling and bursting for joy.

“Alright then,” Susan said, taking the bottle from her.  “She’s not very big.”

“She is petite,” Felicity agreed.

Felicity had thought she had been dismissed and began to turn back to her table.

“You should feed her more.”

Ok. What was that? Felicity glanced at Susan’s face. She seemed neutral, but she wasn’t warm. She didn’t seem especially happy. Or easy.

What was she supposed to say? That Brigit was growing consistently? That she ate all she wanted, and sometimes a little more?

“She on solids?” Susan persisted.

“Yes. She loves her food. She just has the bottle for morning and afternoon tea now, and one for supper.”  

Brigit squealed. She was ready for her morning tea. Felicity moved towards her.

“I’d say she needs more milk. Proper milk.” Susan delivered her opinion to Felicity’s back.

Felicity wondered what she meant. How should she respond to that? Well. Her back was turned. She pretended she hadn’t heard. Instead she made eye contact with Brigit, grinned, and said ‘boo’ as she lifted her out of the high chair.

When Susan brought the bottle to the table it was much too hot. Having seen it though, Brigit wanted it desperately. Felicity moved it out of reach, cuddled Brigit close on her lap and began to read her a story book she had brought. Brigit loved the pictures, loved the sound of turning pages and Felicity’s voice. And she loved to try and help the story along by interjecting baby sounds and turning pages at the wrong moment. Added bonus, she could hide the bottle behind a book.

At first Felicity was engrossed in Brigit and the story, until she heard someone say ‘breast is best’ and her eyes flickered up. Susan was speaking to a mother with a baby nearby. For a microsecond their eyes met and Felicity realised it was a conversation she was supposed to overhear.

Yes. Breast is best. She thought. Unless you come up against a barrier that you can’t get over, under, around or through.

“You’d think the doctor’s wife would know that,” Felicity heard over her narration.

“Probably too vain,” Susan said.

Felicity couldn’t help smirking at that assertion. Wasn’t it a shock to every mother to find out post-baby that bras were not just decorative coverings for perky boobs? That once the hormones were gone you felt like you had two wind socks on your chest and no wind whatsoever?

But she wasn’t vain. She had tried and tried and tried to breastfeed Brigit. She had consciously and deliberately surrendered her body to pregnancy, birth, and motherhood, consciously fighting the stereotypes and pressures and fears about being beautiful and focusing on being strong, on being nourished and nourishing. She had even resisted the panic of needing to be a yummy mummy (though it was hard not to wish she was) and focus on health and recovery. There was no way she could fit into her pre-pregnancy clothes now and nothing about her body looked like her anymore.

She tried to ignore them.

“It’s a pretty baby, but too skinny.”

“Bit like a lollypop.” The women laughed.

Felicity hunkered down behind the picture book.

“Look Brigit,” she said, pointing. “There’s a picture of a duck and a pond and a frog on a waterlily. Can you see the flowers? Can you see the trees? And isn’t that a lovely blue sky with happy balloon-y clouds? She pressed her cheek against Brigit’s. A tear ran across both their cheeks and landed on the picture. Brigit reached out to touch it and tried to pick it up. She smudged it across the page.

Felicity tried to smile. Someone had told her that Brigit could tell what she felt sometimes before she felt it so she had been trying to learn how to relax through her emotions. No matter how anxious or hurt, to let herself relax and to let it bypass her and instead surround Brigit with love and peace and contentment.

She held Brigit’s hands and finished the story. She shut out Susan’s commentary on mothering.

Oh how she wanted to go home!

But Brigit needed her drink first.

It was still a little too warm, but not hot. Drink fast, please bubba. Don’t give yourself a tummy ache, but be done with it quickly so we can go home and be ourselves.

She felt like the whole cafe was staring at her. Brigit, luckily, was oblivious and happily sucked away, patting the bottle with both hands and occasionally reaching up to touch Felicity’s cheek. God, even in that moment it was beautiful to stare into her baby’s eyes.

“I’m sorry, Brigit,” she whispered very softly, so only Brigit knew. “I’m sorry.” She had nothing else to say. Even if she did, she probably couldn’t articulate it without turning into a massive soggy mess and she wanted to leave with what dignity she could salvage.

Brigit stopped sucking. She had tiny beads of sweat on her nose from the effort and the warmth. So adorable. They looked into each other’s eyes and grinned. Yep, all good here. Just checking in.

Felicity had completely tuned out her surroundings. She wondered if what she was experiencing was similar to deafness and tunnel vision. She didn’t care. Home time.

But she mustn’t sook. She had to make this relocation work for Nathan. She had to suck it up. Or something.

“Excuse me?”

Felicity was halfway to the car when a lady touched her shoulder. She shifted Brigit’s weight as she turned and tried to focus.

“Yes?”

“You left this, in the cafe.”

It was the picture book. Felicity was suddenly very teary again.

“Thank you,” she said. “I’d have been pretty shattered to lose it.”

“You’re welcome.”

She felt like some other explanation was needed.

“It’s not just a book, you see.” Which made no sense. But it was true.

It was suddenly awkward.

“I’m Emma, by the way.”

“Hi. I’m Felicity and this is Brigit.” We are not the droids you are looking for, she felt like saying.

 “Thanks again.” She began to walk away.

“Felicity? It’s none of my business, but do you know those women, in the cafe?”

“No, not at all. I’m a bit of a newbie.” She paused. Had every one watched her humiliation as the guilt had piled on?

“So they don’t know you at all?”

“No. Nobody here knows me.” Felicity cuddled Brigit tighter.

Emma smiled.

Felicity sighed. What a relief to remember that! Nobody knows me. It was good to be reminded. She smiled and Brigit laughed.

“Thank you, Emma,” she said. 


© Lorinda Tang 2013





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