I am currently just over half way through my second pregnancy and it is going so fast this time around! Leading up to the 20 week scan, my husband and I were very excited to find out whether the baby was a girl or a boy. We already have a beautiful girl, Rascal, and she is so cute and entertaining. As I approached the day of knowing, I was thinking about what this baby was. Unlike with Rascal, I have felt no instinct. I had absolutely no idea what it was! And with Rascal, my instinct was completely WRONG! I thought she was 100% a boy and she was actually 100% a girl! So I had not let myself think about the second bubby because I didn't see the point! If it was a boy, well we didn't have one of those, so it would be nice and if it was a girl, Rascal would have the sister I had always dreamed of and prayed for. So I couldn't lose either way.
When I was a child, I used to pray and dream that my mum would get pregnant again (I already had a little brother) and give me a sister. I couldn't think of anything better than a sister but pray as I might, Mum and Dad weren't having any more kids! When talking about this to my mum several years ago, she confessed that she, too, wanted a sister as a child. Her mum did get 'accidentally' pregnant quite a few years after having my mum and her brother, but alas it was another brother! So for the past two generations, the women in my family have been sisterless!
When I was a child, I used to pray and dream that my mum would get pregnant again (I already had a little brother) and give me a sister. I couldn't think of anything better than a sister but pray as I might, Mum and Dad weren't having any more kids! When talking about this to my mum several years ago, she confessed that she, too, wanted a sister as a child. Her mum did get 'accidentally' pregnant quite a few years after having my mum and her brother, but alas it was another brother! So for the past two generations, the women in my family have been sisterless!
Finally the day came when I could find out what my second bubby was. Everything was healthy and forming correctly, which was a relief as always, and then the man said "If you're wanting a boy, you're going to have to go back for a third because this one is a girl!" We were very happy to hear what it was, whichever option and left the imaging clinic to call all the family and tell them. Rascal was going to have a sister! Lucky girl!
Once all the family knew, we started telling friends. And over the next few days and weeks, we told whoever asked if we knew, as I have never been able to keep my mouth shut about good news! I wasn't prepared for the reaction that I received from quite a few people. At least 10 people that I have told reacted with deep concern and sympathy. "Are you ok?" "How do you feel about that?" (hand resting on my shoulder) "How are you coping with that?"
The first time I just said "Of course I am ok! Rascal gets a sister! I always wanted one so it's awesome!" The second time I looked at the person for a second to make sure they weren't joking and said something similar. And I have become more amazed as the weeks have gone on. People think that I am meant to be in the depths of depression about this! I really don't get it! They are offering sympathy that is neither wanted or needed. There is nothing to be upset about!
I have come to the conclusion that they must be the ones with the problem. I didn't know there was a rule that said you had to have a girl then a boy. Or a boy then a girl. I guess I just find their reactions quite confusing and it makes me question whether or not I should be disappointed! Which of course, I know I shouldn't. God meant for me to have two beautiful girls and that's what I'm going to have! I have always wanted three kids, so we will see what the next one is, but you know what? I don't care if it's another princess! And please don't give me any sympathy for it!
Libby :)
Once all the family knew, we started telling friends. And over the next few days and weeks, we told whoever asked if we knew, as I have never been able to keep my mouth shut about good news! I wasn't prepared for the reaction that I received from quite a few people. At least 10 people that I have told reacted with deep concern and sympathy. "Are you ok?" "How do you feel about that?" (hand resting on my shoulder) "How are you coping with that?"
The first time I just said "Of course I am ok! Rascal gets a sister! I always wanted one so it's awesome!" The second time I looked at the person for a second to make sure they weren't joking and said something similar. And I have become more amazed as the weeks have gone on. People think that I am meant to be in the depths of depression about this! I really don't get it! They are offering sympathy that is neither wanted or needed. There is nothing to be upset about!
I have come to the conclusion that they must be the ones with the problem. I didn't know there was a rule that said you had to have a girl then a boy. Or a boy then a girl. I guess I just find their reactions quite confusing and it makes me question whether or not I should be disappointed! Which of course, I know I shouldn't. God meant for me to have two beautiful girls and that's what I'm going to have! I have always wanted three kids, so we will see what the next one is, but you know what? I don't care if it's another princess! And please don't give me any sympathy for it!
Libby :)
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